tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-89852886351114252152024-03-18T20:29:06.929-08:00For the Love of baby LiamBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.comBlogger306125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-71567607764363612032017-01-13T16:32:00.000-09:002017-01-13T16:32:46.413-09:00It's Been AwhileSeems like forever since I last looked at my blog, or even read anyone's else's blog posts. Life has been busy. Ruby turned 1 in August and Max 3 in September. I can't believe how much they both have grown this past year. Max seems to have changed from toddler to little boy in the past 6 months. He also speaks so well now. He loves playing with his friends. He loves cars, balls, Paw Patrol and really into doing puzzles. He has also been in swimming lessons and starting skating lessons tomorrow. He really wants to play hockey. He also now has glasses. Ruby seems to have moved from baby to toddler overnight. She wants to be just like Max and do everything he's doing. She is running everywhere and climbing on everything. She seems very bright. She is also speaking quite well for her age, saying about 15 words already. It's just so awesome to see them grow through this stages and become such amazing little people.<br />
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Big changes also happened at the beginning of the New Year as I decided to go back to work full time. It's definitely been bittersweet. Because of all of my fears of losing them, I never thought I'd be able to leave them at a daycare, but so far so good, and I think it's been good for them too.<br />
Not much else has been going on for us, but for now, I kind of like the mellowness of it all.<br />
Liam's 6th birthday in heaven was on January 3rd. It's hard to believe it's been 6 years. It doesn't affect me like it once did but I'll always wonder who my 6 year old boy would be today. Max is really into birthdays now. So it was nice to have him more involved in picking out a cake and singing happy birthday to his big brother. I try and show him pictures of his older siblings and say they are in heaven, but he doesn't seem to fully understand, yet, but that's okay. Evelynn will be 5 in April, which I also find hard to believe. Every so often I still get tangled up in this web of thoughts varying from "why I didn't go straight to the hospital when I first felt pain" and "why didn't I fight harder for her," but it is what it is, I guess. I still have no desire to go to a baby shower, be around pregnancy talk, or even see newborn, but I do better around it now than in the past. Maybe one day it'll be different.<br />
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If you're reading this, thank you for still following along, even though I don't come back here often. If you're new to baby loss. I am sorry, and I hope you find comfort in the words of baby loss mom, or dad, bloggers, like I did, letting you know you're not alone. The same goes for all others who have experienced a uterine rupture, struggled with infertility, used a gestational carrier, or have adopted like my family in order to grow your family. <br />
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<br />Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-42526387341437866342016-04-14T16:13:00.002-08:002016-04-16T18:39:29.384-08:00Evelynn's Scrapbook In 8 days it'll be 4 years since my sweet Evelynn was born, and 10 days since we had to say goodbye for now. I have been saying for the past almost 4 years that I need to get her scrapbook started, and of course, then finished. Back when I did <a href="http://fortheloveofbabyliam.blogspot.com/2012/04/liams-scrapbook.html?m=1">Liams</a> scrapbook it took me a little over a year to finish his. Although it was still hard to work on, the drive to have it done before Evelynn was born helped me to get it done. I don't recall exactly when I started her scrapbook, but it took me a very, very long time to get anywhere with it. So many baby stickers bought and cute scrapbook ideas that I found, once again never got used because those things don't seem to work with how this scrapbook was going to end. I even started once and ended up ripping multiple pages out, only to start over. I just wanted it to be perfect for her. When I finally started making real progress on it, I did everything from before her birth and then the funeral on. I just couldn't bring myself, until probably the last 3-6 months, to really go through her pictures from birth, and even then it was (is) still hard to look at those nicu pictures. So, like Liam's, I needed to take pictures of the whole scrapbook, just in case something were to ever happen to it, and of course to share her beautiful life with all of you. <br />
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<br />Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-24674854421079201692016-02-01T23:03:00.001-09:002016-02-01T23:13:37.832-09:00Adoption Journey Update 8Sorry it has taken me so long to update, but thank you to a recent commenter, I realized I need to just take the time and share what has been going on with our family and little miss Ruby these past few months.<br />
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We got Ruby's birth certificate a few months back, way sooner than we expected. We then immediately applied for a social security card for her so we could have that all finished by the end of 2015.<br />
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The nursing has still been going pretty well. For the most part I can keep up with her on a daily basis, except for when she decides to cluster feed. A few of the moms in one of my mom's groups also gave me a bunch of milk, which was really nice to have.<br />
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It's hard to believe Ruby will be 6 months old in 2 days. She smiles, coos, has an adorable giggle when tickled, and rolls over. She loves her exersaucer and loves looking at herself in the mirror. She doesn't care for a pacifier, but loves her thumb, and is all about putting anything else she can find in her mouth. We are working on trying to get her to sit up but she seriously hates to bend at the hips. She is also not a fan of tummy time. I see it being awhile before she starts crawling. We see the pediatrician on Friday and then we will start solids. She is really long and skinny, no teeth yet, and her hair seems like it is always changing color. For a long time we swore she was turning into a red head, but then other days it looks very light blonde, almost white, other days a dark gold color, and then back to strawberry blonde. Her eyes look to me like they are almost a grey color. She's such a beautiful baby girl and we love her so much.<br />
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I got our first letter in the mail from our adoption agency last week about sending out our first update. I didn't know this but I have to include a letter on how Ruby is doing. With that I also have to send at least 10 pictures of her. I still keep in contact with her birthmom, mainly by text, but have mailed her almost every picture I have taken so far of miss Ruby. She sends me messages every so often asking how Ruby is and I'll occasionally just send her a picture. I am glad that we have this contact and hope it continues. I have never had any contact with the biodad, so I hope he likes the pictures I send and the update on how Ruby is doing.<br />
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Here are some pictures from the last few months. Since we got Christmas pictures, I probably will wait and do 7 or 8 month pictures instead of getting 6 month ones done. I am not sure when I'll post next, as the kiddos have kept me quite busy, but thank you to everyone who has given so much support and followed along through the adoption process.<br />
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<br />Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-71705839642391276842015-10-07T10:32:00.003-08:002015-10-07T10:38:00.022-08:00Adoption Journey Update 7As well as a 2nd birthday party and adoption finalization party in one<br />
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August 25, 2015- Social worker came for post placement visit. The state of Alaska only required one.<br />
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August 26, 2015- One of my mom groups through a sip and see for us. It was so sweet. I cried. I still have a hard time with the idea of baby showers, but this was really nice. Also, makes it a lot easier when the baby is here and alive.<br />
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September 30, 2015- Court date for finalization. Ruby is officially a Rasmussen!!! That night we had a party for both Max and for Ruby. A 2nd birthday party for Max and an adoption finalization party for Ruby. Of course, it was train themed and the cake was strawberry flavored with reddish frosting. Red for Ruby and also red for adoption. The girl who made it did an amazing job. If you look closely you can see all of our kids are included on the cake. A boxcar with a sign for toddler crossing. A boxcar with a sign for baby crossing. And then a boxcar with a sign for angels crossing with l's and e's on the boxcar to represent Liam and Evelynn.<br />
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October 2, 2015- Got our paperwork in the mail saying the adoption was fianlized and that we can expect to get the supplemental birth certicate in around 12 weeks. Once we get that we can finally apply for a birth certificate.<br />
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A necklace for her and one for Ruby.<br />
A Ruby as the stone versus her birthstone.</td></tr>
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<br />Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-47115786514977909342015-09-16T12:03:00.001-08:002015-09-16T12:05:29.032-08:00Ruby Is 6 Weeks Old<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Well, 6 weeks and 2 days.<br />
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After living out of a hotel room for almost 2 weeks with her it's hard to believe we've been home with this little beauty for over a month already. Things have been going okay. Max has been having a fairly hard time though. He's clearly very jealous and I think he also hit the terrible twos stage, along with some teething going on. I suppose that's to be expected. So, we've had some rough days, but I am so grateful they are both healthy.<br />
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Here are some picture of my sweet girl and our family. Does anyone recognize the pink tutu and headband? That's right, it is from our Evelynn bear, and I think Ruby looks darling in it. And can you believe Max is almost two?!<br />
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Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-67905018317110769442015-08-17T21:29:00.001-08:002015-08-17T21:29:36.496-08:00Adoption Journey Update 7I apologize again for not getting a post, or just a short note, letting you all know things were okay out sooner. I had wanted to wait until all the papers were signed before I made any big announcements, just in case. Then, once papers were signed I just kept saying that I'd post something tomorrow, which I obviously ended up never doing til now. Here is a short, well kind of long, look at our adoption journey after baby was born.<br />
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Baby Ruby Evelynn was born on August 3, 2015 at 1:42pm. She was 6lbs 11oz., 18.5 inches long, and had a full head of blonde hair. Our birthmom did great and I am so grateful she let me be in the delivery room. When the dr had broke her water that morning there had been meconium in it which can cause the baby distress and lead to infection and even pneumonia. Because of this there was a pediatrician and nicu staff in the delivery room to assess baby at birth. Once born they were able to suction a lot of the meconium out of her lungs right away but said she was having some breathing issues and would need to go right to the nicu. I was so panicked but I was also so glad that she was induced that day because I can't imagine how much worse it could've been had they waited til she went into labor on her own.<br />
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I headed down to the nicu shortly after Ruby was brought there to see how she was doing. The pediatrician told us that by the time they got to the nicu she was doing remarkably better, so they decided not do the xray afterall and said that she didn't even need the cpap. They still wanted to monitor her for a couple hours though and wanted to give her all her shots before they would let any of us hold her or release her from the nicu.<br />
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In the state that we adopted her from it only had a 12 hr relinquishment period, but since Ruby wasn't born until the afternoon our adoption lady wasn't going to come in the middle of the night to get signatures. So, when Tuesday morning came we were so eager for the adoption lady to come. We waited and waited and waited some more. Ruby had been in with her birthmom most of the day, except the feedings and that we had her in our room overnight, so Dereck and I had to just sit in our hospital room alone with our thoughts, and we were going crazy with fear. I thought pregnancy was scary waiting for a baby to be born alive and healthy, but let me tell you, waiting for the birthmom to sign the papers is a real mind f#÷&. Her husband, who wasn't the bio dad, and her mom were all trying to convince her to change her mind. We were certain we were never going to get to see her again. Finally, at about 3:30pm our adoption lady came in and said the papers were signed. Our birthmom even put Ruby Evelynn on the birth certificate. So, when everything's official all we would have to do is get her last name changed to ours.<br />
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We left the hospital shortly after the papers were signed and moved close to where the agency was, about an hour and a half away. We just needed a release from the agency stating that we were Ruby's power of attorney and a letter from the agency stating that the hospital can release her into our custody. We went to the adoption agency the next day, on Wednesday, and signed our section of the adoption papers. Ruby's bio dad went into the agency office on Thursday and signed his section of the paperwork. From there on out we just hung out at our hotel waiting to hear when our court date was and also when Juneau had received and signed off on ICPC. A week later, on the 12th, we finally had court. There we met with the lawyer and a judge. We were able to do this now so that we don't have to come back for the official court date for finalization on September 30th. At that time the lawyer will stand in for us and Ruby will officially be ours.<br />
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Also, on the 12th we drove back to the town Ruby was born in and met up with our birthmom and her family so they could spend a bit of time with her before we left town. It was so evident how much her and her family loved Ruby. I am so grateful that she chose us and says she made the right decision, but we feel for her. We know far too well what it is like to leave the hospital empty handed. We assured her that we will not disclude Ruby from her life. We have each others phone numbers to keep in contact and can send pics via text message. Also, part of the legal agreement is that we send her and the bio dad at least 10 pics every 6 months the first 2 years and then once a year after that. We will send her all the pics she wants, directly to her even, if that's what she'd like. I think and hope we will always have a good relationship and that Ruby will always know who her birthmom is and knows that she loves her.<br />
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We finally got the call on the afternoon of the 14th that the ICPC paperwork was approved by Juneau, which meant we could finally go home. We got plane tickets for the next night, the 15th. Exactly 3 weeks to the day we left, we were finally home.<br />
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As far as the breastfeeding goes, well, it's not going as great as it did with Max. I ran out of domperidone a few days after she was born. Since things went so well when I breastfeed Max, I just assumed I wouldn't need to be on it after she was born and started nursing. Well, I'd also say that the stress I felt during the hospital stay didn't help. By day 3 it seemed I already couldn't keep up and we had to supplement with formula. Now that we're back home it'll be easier to work at getting it back and I'll get back on the domperidone for another month or two. The good news is that she doesn't seem to have any nipple confusion and latches on great, so hopefully it won't take too much work.<br />
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She is such an amazing little baby and we love her so much. And today she is 2 weeks old. Our family will always be incomplete without our sweet babies Liam and Evelynn, but I will say that it seems a lot more balanced and incompletely complete now that we have our boy and our girl.<br />
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Thank you everyone for all your support on this long journey of ours to grow our family. Here's Ruby, isn't she fabulous?!<br />
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I also just want to say now before anyone decides they want to comment anything along the lines of "us saving her," or anything else of that nature that I hear far to often from other adoptive families. I even already had a fellow blm from one of my loss groups say that it's just so sad that her mom didn't want her. Maybe in the case of some adoptions that can be said, but in the case of ours, it is far from true. She loved her so much that she wanted to ensure she had the life she knew at this present time she couldn't give her. If anything its a very brave and noble thing to do.Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com21tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-77601104829045937402015-08-15T22:33:00.001-08:002015-08-15T22:33:16.805-08:00Sorry everyone for not posting sooner. Things are good and I'll post something soon.Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-28649995382932459942015-08-03T10:06:00.001-08:002015-08-03T10:17:02.467-08:00Adoption Journey Update 6July 17, 2015 and July 24, 2015- Birthmom was supposed to have her weekly appts, but both times they were cancelled. I was furious. Afterall, I live in the land where babies die.<br />
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July 30, 2015- She got in a day earlier this week for her 39 week appt. than scheduled. I guess the reason her appts were canceled last time wasn't do to a neglectful dr, but instead his nurse was on vacation and the one that took over for her had no idea what she was doing. Ridiculous, but at least they are both still doing well. I got to go to this appt but mainly just sat in the corner of the room while the dr talked to her. Dr predicts baby will be born by 2:22pm. We'll see.<br />
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Before this appt I had a couple of good mini panic attacks. I know I don't have much control how everything pans out, but it's hard for me not to expect the worst. By that I mean I'm still scared of stillbirth, I have a small fear her uterus could rupture like mine did, and of course their is always the chance she or one of the dads could change their mind and not sign the adoption paperwork. I wish being more optimistic came easy to me. We didn't talk to our birthmom much the rest of the weekend, besides telling her we were excited and that we'd be at the hospital at 8 am on monday morning.<br />
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August 3, 2015- Yeah. We made it to hopefully our new baby girls birthday. As I write this it is 8am and we are sitting in the lobby outside of labor and delivery. We picked up some flowers for her and have a gift from Alaska for her daughter. I texted her when we arrived and she said that her Dr was going to be in soon to break her water. She will also be getting her epidural. She said she'll let us know when he leaves and then we can head back by her. I am sooo anxious.<br />
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When we walked into her room we learned that baby was in distress, so she and baby will be monitored closely to make sure things remain okay. We were told that at the time of delivery there will be a pediatrician and nicu staff waiting to check baby out to make sure she doesn't have an infection. The adoption lady also showed up. So now we will all just continue to wait.<br />
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1pm- The dr just checked her and she's an 8. He says it's go time in 15 min. Eeek! Not sure when I'll write next, but wish us luck!Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-90734979948022654402015-07-12T15:43:00.003-08:002015-07-12T15:52:30.943-08:00Adoption Journey Update 5Where has time gone. It's been awhile since my last update.<br />
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May 15, 2015- June 15, 2015- I spent the majority of the last half of May between talking to the local nursing boutique, talking to Max's Dr, and seeing a new family practice Dr to discuss inducing lactation with domperidone. I also joined an adoptive breastfeeding group on Facebook. Through them and from a few friends help I learned more about out of the country online pharmacies. My prescription arrived June 15th and I've been taking it every day since. From this point on I'll probably not talk about my inducing lactation journey since I wrote so much about it during my surrogacy journey with Max. It's just me and the pump until the babies born and crossing my fingers it'll goes as well as it did last time.<br />
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Here is a <a href="http://www.asklenore.info/breastfeeding/abindex.shtml">page</a> that I learned about from the FB group. It is called Ask Lenore and has a lot of great advice on breastfeeding and inducing lactation.<br />
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June 4, 2015- Took part in an adoption webinar from my consulting agency on Preparing for Baby.<br />
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June 11, 2015- Took part in another webinar on Hospital Protocol and Preparation.<br />
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June 19, 2015- Birthmom had an ob appt today. The adoption lady went with her to the appt so that they could speak with the Dr about the adoption and work on creating the birth plan. At this time the induction was set for August 4th. August 1rst is technically 39 weeks, but it is on a Saturday and they don't induce on weekends. The birth plan paperwork is filled out so far but can always change depending on how our birth mom feels as time draws closer, or could even change the day of delivery. As of now she says that she does want Dereck and I in the room. She also wants us and the baby to have our own room and that once the baby is born to be able to go with us to our room immediately and start to feed her. She says that even though the baby isn't ours until the paperwork is signed, she wants the hospital staff to talk to all of us in regards to the baby's care. She already knows the name we have picked out and says that she will start referring to the baby as that and also use it for the name on the birth certificate. She says she doesn't want any of her family there unless she were to need a c-section, and then would like her mom there. The only thing she isn't so sure of as of now is who is going to hold the baby first. She wants to hold the baby at some point, which she needs to do, but says she may wait until sometime after the baby is with us in our room. So far I think this plan sounds fabulous.<br />
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July 7, 2015- Our birthmom had another appt. yesterday. I was able to speak to adoption lady about it today. I guess the induction got moved to august 3rd at 6:45 am! A day sooner, I'll take it! I guess now that we a set and time our adoption lady can start working on the paperwork for the hospital.<br />
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July 11, 2015- Dereck spoke to his mom and her and his stepdad are planning to drive down and meet us a few days before the baby's induction date and then plan to stay until we are able to fly home. I am grateful they are coming, especially to help with Max while we are at the hospital and then while completing all of the adoption paperwork. We are also at 36 weeks! So exciting and so scary. Trying to remain as calm as possible and just carry on as normal until its go time. Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-82398605290421874032015-05-14T14:43:00.001-08:002015-05-14T14:43:19.968-08:00Adoption Journey Update 4March 27, 2015- Worked on getting all other info needed for the adoption agency scanned and emailed. This included birth certificates, marriage license, 2013 taxes, and letters from Drs. offices saying we are in good health as of our last physicals. We also had to get in contact with our social worker so that the agency could get all of our home study clearances. Our social worker also had to write a letter to the agency that she will be working with us for our post placement meeting after the adoption is finalized.<br />
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April 10, 2015- We received some of our birth moms medical records but nothing related to the 20 week sonogram. Hopefully we will know more about how everything is going with the pregnancy soon. Our agency called and said that our birth mom was supposed to have an appt. today but she had to miss it due to a family emergency. She did however tell me that she had good news in that the papers were delivered and already back from the biological dad saying that he agreed to an adoption and wanted no part in the babies life. He still has just as long as our birth mom to change his mind but at least so far he is saying he is good with signing his parental rights away. <br />
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April 14, 2015-bought out plane tickets to go meet our birth mom and her daughter. Eeeek!<br />
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April 17, 2015- had a mock birth mom talk with a lady that gave her baby up for a daughter last year. It was nice hearing what she had to say about her experience and knowing in the end it truly was the right decision.<br />
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April 20, 2015- spoke with the adoption consultant about our travels to meet our birth mom. Discussed things like never answer any questions about how much this is costing us or how much we make and that we should probably never bring up anything related to her ex, which is her daughters dad, or this baby's dad. <br />
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April 23, 2015- Met with Max's pediatrician today to tell him about the adoption. We asked him about what he would like us to do once the baby is born and also to ask him if he will help me again with inducing lactation so that I can breastfeed this baby as well. We will most likely do things, for the most part, exactly the same as we did with Max in terms of getting all medical records and then following up with pediatrician as soon as we arrive home. I don't know what I am going to do about the breastfeeding though. I really want to do it again, but I won't be able to use domperidone like I did to induce it for Max. The FDA officially banned it for who really knows why. I am going to go with the formula makers paid them off because they know it works so well and they'd rather have you buy formula. I have that about buying it from China or India, but not sure how much I can trust that. I could take Reglan but that can have horrible long term side effects. My milk still seems to be here a tiny bit, so I am thinking of doing some good old fashion hand expressing, making lactation cookies, and whatever else I can do to get it to come back more and more on its own. I honestly think that since I never had issues in the past with my milk coming in that once the baby is here it'll just pick up on its own. <br />
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April 27, 2015- Spoke with adoption agency about birth moms recent Dr appt. Things are still good there. Also discussed our coming visit.<br />
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May 7, 2015- Got on our flight to meet our birth mom. So nervous and afraid I would saw the wrong thing.<br />
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May 8, 2015- Spent the day with our birth mom, her mom, her daughter, and lady from the adoption agency. We started with lunch but didn't get to talk too much since the kids were bouncing all over the place. After lunch we headed to an indoor park so the kids could play and we could have time to chat. They did ask if we had the nursery set up yet. We felt kind of bad because we don't really. Max is still in there and the baby will most likely sleep in our room for quite a few months. Then, I think we need to decide when Max is going to a toddler bed so baby can have the crib. The adoption lady asked our birth mom if she was planning to name the baby first or not. She has the choice of giving her a name for the birth certificate, just have the birth certificate say baby girl, or give the baby our name right off the bat. Our birth mom said she didn't want to leave it just as baby girl but also didn't want to name the baby herself because she is afraid of growing more of an attachment. She did ask us what names we were considering, which her and her mom said they liked them all, and said that she would prefer to give the baby our name. I loved that she said that "after all the baby is ours". We briefly talked about a birth plan. She isn't too sure how she wants to go about it yet. She did say though that she didn't want her mom in the room. At her next Ob appt the adoption lady wants to go along so that they can start to discuss with the Dr the possibility of doing an induction so that we can try to have a plan. We also told her that I am hoping to breastfeed, like I did with Max, and she seemed like she really liked that, especially to help with the bonding. I wish I would've asked her more questions but wasn't really to sure on what all too ask about. I asked her if she had any specific questions for us but she said "no" and that we did such a good job on our profile book that she felt she knew us so well already. She also said that now after meeting us she feels even more confident that she did make the right decision. <br />
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May 9-11, 2015. Spent the day weekend with a friend who lived in the area who also lost a baby and then when on to adopt. She is actually the one who referred me to the consulting agency we went through. From her I ended up learning about this thing called ICPE, which I didn't know a thing about. I ended up asking our adoption lady and she briefly went over it with me. Pretty much it sounds like once the baby is born and the paperwork is signed it has to get sent to the state, then get sent to my state so that they are aware we are bringing this adopted baby into it, then sent back to her state all before we can go. I guess this can take up to a week. We also can't leave the state with that baby at any point with the baby until this is all finished, which is kind of a bummer since my friend literally lives right on the border of the state, but on the other side. I guess that means we will be staying there for at least a week before we can go home with her. <br />
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For now I am just happy things are going well and that she still seems really happy with her decision to let us adopt her baby. Saturday marks 28 weeks which puts us in the 3rd trimester and less than 3 months to go!Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-82928688896281266332015-05-09T20:04:00.002-08:002015-05-10T05:24:39.212-08:00Her 3rd Birthday- a little lateApril 22nd. I wish I could say the day was better than it was, but who would I be kidding. The. Day. Sucked. How is it that I can still have days where I deal with every aspect of the grief cycle, except acceptance? We still aren't there. I know I've been told a thousand times there isn't a right or wrong way to grieve, but I still feel like I am failing at it, badly. It didn't exactly help that it started out by Max vomiting all over me and later followed by a massive diaper explosion while out trying to do an errand. Then I just needed a moment to curse the world for never letting it be easy for me, which then makes me feel like a horrible mom. From there the horrible grief spiral progressed into lots of crying for my girl and wishing I could've just died instead. I had already started my week deciding I needed to move and start over. A new life. New everything. Where no one knows me. You know, because running from your issues is always the answer.<br />
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I had wanted to get a cake for Evelynn and talk to Max about his sisters birthday. Not sure how much he would understand about it yet, but I'm sure he'd love to eat the cake, and I really want to start celebrating ALL my kids birthdays. I should've known better, but of course I couldn't find anything at the places I checked that I thought would be Max friendly. In case I've never mentioned this before but he has issue with dairy, eggs, wheat, rye, and soy. With the morning I already had I didn't want to drive all over town searching for something that would work for him, so I was pretty upset when the few places I went seemed to not have anything he could eat dessert wise. So, I just cried some more and then never did anything the rest of the day for her. Utter fail. <br />
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In the past, I have always posted something on Facebook in regards to Liam and Evelynn's birthday. This year I did not, and not sure I will again. Lately, I have been having a very love hate relationship with Facebook. I love it for the important stuff like pictures of family and friends I don't get to see much. Absolutely disgusted by it for the amount of people that use it to whine and get attention on it. Since losing Liam and then Evelynn I have lost a lot of faith, religion/God wise. I believe in heaven and that I will see my babies again, but as far as prayer goes and people talking about how God granted them a miracle and thanks everyone who prayed, I think its just kind of a joke. And seriously, what is with everyone these days posting to get prayed for on facebook? I swear its like every 5th post I see. Then all the comments are "praying". I am sure I am going to piss a few really religious people off here, but all I want to know is how many people will actually sit and pray when they write that and how many people only comment that they are praying because they feel it is the right thing to do to leave a comment like that. I guess what I was getting at is that the last thing I want is for people to leave comments on a post about Evelynn's birthday, not even asking for prayers, that they are A) praying for her. Ummmm, last time I checked she is in Heaven and if not with me in the next best place. So, what are you praying for again? B) praying for me. Why are you praying for me? Are you worried I might still go crazy and off myself??? or praying that I'll finally "get over it" in terms of her dying. or C) you only leave a comment because you feel guilty if you don't, even though you don't really give a rats ass about the post, but hey, at least you'll feel better knowing you wrote something? I guess I'm just a big ol' biotch when it comes to protecting my heart and my daughter, as well as Liam. None of those comments mean anything to me. What means the most to me are the people that actually remember her birthday and go out of there way to actually contact me by other means than by social media. Sadly, there are very few that did.<br />
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Dereck was gone for work but did send flowers to her to our house. He is such a great dad and I know he misses his baby girl so much. Dereck's mom did visit Evelynn and let me know, and sent a picture, that she bought her a few things for her grave. I love so, so, so much that she did that.<br />
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Not saving her will always be my biggest regret in life. Suppose that's why I am so often still stuck in April 2012. I found this on her birthday looking for a picture of Max. She was perfect. Ugh.<br />
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April 23rd. This email came at just the right moment between Evelynn's birthday and passing day. I really, really needed it. Its crazy how someone you have never met can be the one person who makes a hard time better. </div>
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<em>I came across your blog while looking for an appropriate quote to cherish my friends baby Abby who passed away 8 years ago. We are doing a walk for TEARS and I wanted something thoughtful to put on my dedication. I don't ever randomly email strangers but I found your website so touching. How could I not? Thank you for sharing your story. </em></div>
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<em>I have one biological son, have suffered three miscarriages, and have adopted two beautiful children from the State. Everyone tells me that I am a wonderful person to have saved my two younger children.....but I always tell everyone that the truth is...<strong>they have saved me. </strong></em></div>
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<em>You are an amazing women. A Hero. You are Life after Loss. You are Hope. I am glad you have found happiness in your child (and future children). Adoption is a wonderful thing. I wish you all the best in your journey.</em></div>
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<em>Bless you on your adoption journey. All the best.</em><br />
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This post is not about our adoption journey but she touched on something there with the <em><strong>they have saved me. </strong></em>There is just so much that people don't understand until they are in your shoes.<br />
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April 24th. Her passing day started out no different than any other day. I went about my day as usual. Playdate with Max, naptime, and also went to the health club. That night though, was another one of those unexpected moments that helped heal my heart. I was going to Prom 3.0 with some friends the next night and one of my friends had messaged me to let know that she had a few dresses that I could try on if I still needed a dress. I did, because trying to shop for a dress with a toddler is impossible. So, I got there and tried on the dresses, which didn't work, but that's besides the point. Anyways, they asked me to stay for dinner and then one of the girls brought up Evelynn. That's what we talked about for about the next 2 hours, and it was everything I needed and more that night. I thanked them so much for that. It's exactly what I needed.<br />
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So here I am finally finishing Evelynn's birthday post. Over 2 weeks since her birthday and now mother's day is here. I'm a bit bitter still about the mothers day after Liam and Evelynn passed but love having Max here with me. I'll leave it at that though. A friend did however post this on facebook and it speaks to me.<br />
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Love you forever baby girl. I think about you every day. I miss you so incredibly much and the little girl you'd be today.</div>
Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-74876317806510810602015-04-19T15:35:00.001-08:002015-04-19T15:35:43.542-08:00AprilMy baby girls 3rd birthday is in just a few days. Today I am feeling it; the sadness, the grief, my anger toward the world. Today it was set off by the fact that I went to a babies brunch. When will things like this not bring on so much pain? A bunch of our friends got together with all of our kids, well, except their were two missing. There is always going to be two missing, and I'm sure I am the only one who noticed. I hate that Liam should've been one of the oldest and Evelynn would be the same age as my friends boy, since we were pregnant together. Max is just in the middle since my other friends all have their little babies within a month of age from one another. I am feeling a lot of jealousy right now. If all goes well with the adoption, that baby will be just a month or two younger than another friend of mine who is due in June. I guess that's something, but I don't want to think about that since I know nothing is guaranteed in pregnancy. <br />
On April 14th Dereck got a vasectomy. This might have been the wrong month to consider getting that done, but then all I can think about is, what if we accidentally did get pregnant? That would kind of suck since we are in the process of adopting. Although after seeing all the babies today it made me just want to cry that I'll never be pregnant again and never get the chance to see another one of my biological babies grow, especially not a daughter. Even though our chances are slim, it makes me want to just try anyway. The Dr. told Dereck there is a couple month window in which it could still be possible. I guess their is always the sperm we have cryopreserved too, but then it just goes back to just wanting to be out of that trying to conceive stage and be done already. <br />
I guess, not much else to say. I just want to make it through this week as sane as possible.Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-78269095335975633062015-04-08T13:29:00.002-08:002015-04-08T13:29:57.532-08:0018 Months of MaxI have had many people ask me how Max is doing. Well, he is pretty great! He turned 18 months back on March 26th and is a very busy little boy. He's running all over the place and climbs on everything. He says hi, Sadie (our dog), mom, dad, and thank you pretty clearly. He eats most things. Although he has a bunch of food sensitivities that make it difficult at times to find something quick. I have joined a lot of play groups, which are super difficult for me at times, but I know Max needs it and the adult conversation is much needed. <br />
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I just completed a scrapbook for Max, using Shutterfly because I just don't have the time to do one by hand these days, starting with the letter that Jessica first emailed to me offering to be our carrier. So, the first part of the book starts with our journey with Jessica, his birth, about a zillion pictures later, and then ending with his first birthday with family and a visit with Jessica and her family one year later. I think this will come in handy, not just for memories, but for when the time comes to tell Max all about Jessica and how he came to be.<br />
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We just got home from a trip to Hawaii so here are some pics of our time there and a few others. <br />
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Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-75280681201896992972015-03-26T23:26:00.001-08:002015-05-14T13:49:07.042-08:00Adoption Journey Update 3March 16, 2015- After seeing multiple cases that either didn't fit what we were looking for, and a few that we considered but decided against, we finally got a case that we decided to submit for. Caucasian baby girl with a due date of August 8th. No drugs or alcohol. Mom is having a hard time supporting the daughter she has and so wants to give this baby more opportunity.<br />
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March 17, 2015- Our consultant said that the agency for this case needed profiles by the 18th, and so we needed to electronically submit a pdf of our profile. She also told me that I needed to write a letter to the birth mom and attach it to the email. I was so nervous but I got it wrote up and got it all submitted.<br />
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March 20. 2015- Even though the profiles had needed to be in by that Wednesday, apparently the birth mom wouldn't be able to make it the agency until Friday the 20th. So we waited and waited to hopefully get a call from our consultant letting us know the result, that's if she would've been able to make a decision so quickly. Instead, I got an email from our consultant from the agency letting her know that they will hopefully have an answer by Tuesday the next week.<br />
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March 23, 2015- I tried not to think about the birth mom's decision all weekend and just hoped for the best. Monday came and I was just finishing a shutterfly book I had made for Max's first year when I got the call. I won't say what state the birth mom lives in, but when I saw a number come up on my phone from said state, I got so excited, and instantly thought, "could this be the actual adoption agency calling me to give me the good news". That's assuming that if it was bad news my consultant probably would've just called me or sent me an email. I was right about the number. Right away the women I spoke to said she had fabulous news for us. She said that out of 13 profiles that were submitted, she picked us. I couldn't believe it. I was jumping up and down. How was this possible. How did we actually get picked out of 13, on our first case we submitted to, and only being a few months into our adoption journey?! We talked for a while about the birth mom and about the agency there and then she said she'd send me some pictures and all the paperwork we needed to do. If we agreed to everything we needed to have the contract signed and our deposit overnighted to them.<br />
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March 24, 2015- Anxiety completely set in. Was and am still excited but the fears of her changing her mind about the adoption or one of the 2 father that needs to sign the adoption papers won't give up their rights or will change their mind last minute. I hate that their is still over 4 months of her pregnancy left. Plus, after seeing the ultrasound pictures and even pictures of her, it all seems even more real now.<br />
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March 25, 2015- Got the cashiers check and all the paperwork printed off, filled out, and signed.<br />
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March 26, 2015- Brought our signed contract, agency paperwork, and deposit to FedEx to get mailed to agency. We're officially doing this! August came come soon enough.<br />
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Once the agency gets our paperwork we will have to set up a time to go to the birth mom and agencies state to meet her. It is going to be a completely open adoption and the birth mom wants to meet us before the delivery. We are thinking it'd probably be best to meet her sooner than later and hopefully she'll still love us. Eeeek! I am so nervous but if all of this continues to go the way it has so far, we will have a baby girl before Max's 2nd birthday!!!!!Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-63753346203109851212015-02-26T08:27:00.001-09:002015-02-26T08:28:50.919-09:00Adoption Journey Update 2<span style="line-height: normal;">February 12, 2015- Met with social worker one last time to get finished home study packet and pay for the home study. I also immediately emailed my adoption consultant to let her know we are home study ready, which means we can officially start seeing profiles!!!!</span><br />
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<span style="line-height: normal;">February 17, 2015- Spoke with adoption consultant about what all we need to do if we decide we like one of the profiles that gets sent to us and also just in general how to read through the profiles since they will be coming from multiple different agencies and all look a little bit different. She also told us that since our criteria for a baby is pretty narrowed down; Caucasian, girl, newborn to 1 years old, no alcohol use, that we won't see too many profiles. So, she will actually send us all of the profiles, minus any that seem truly wrong for us, like some serious alcohol use, so that way, just in case, some other profile not in our criteria catches our eye and we get the opportunity to adopt one of those babies instead, if we like. </span><br />
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<span style="line-height: normal;">Since we spoke to our consultant we have seen 2 profiles. Neither fit into our criteria, but still nice to see what different profiles look like from different states and different expecting moms.</span><span style="line-height: normal;"><br /></span>
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<span style="line-height: normal;">*If at all possible please spread the word that we're adopting for us, if you can. Our social worker told us that she has met more people who were able to adopt just by word of mouth because someone randomly over heard a conversation from a couple of people that were talking about themselves or even a friend who was wanting to adopt, and they just so happened to know someone that was looking to put their baby up for adoption. </span><br />
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<span style="line-height: normal;">Here is our adoption profile book as well. Since I wanted it on here page by page, the quality is not great. The actual profile book and pdf are awesome looking though.</span><br />
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Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-57911996746353544722015-02-09T11:40:00.000-09:002015-02-09T11:40:00.218-09:00Adoption Journey Update 1<div>
We are getting so close to being able to see profiles. Here is what's been going on so far.<br />
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December 18, 2014- We made the decision to adopt and use the same company that a fellow blm friend of mine used. I went to their website and filled out the online application and later spoke to the owner of the adoption consulting agency we are going to be working with about how the process works. The owner will also be our consultant through the process. </div>
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December 21, 2014- emailed in our paperwork </div>
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December 22, 2014- We paid our initial upfront consulting fees. We're officially doing this!</div>
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December 21, 2014- got home study packet from our social worker. Lots of pages for Dereck and I to fill out about ourselves, our financial state, etc. Also immediately got the forms for our 3 references and work info sent out. <br />
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January 5, 2015- I got my fingerprint and criminal background check done for our home study. Also, got info from adoption consultant to set up our eadopt account. This is how we will
keep everything organized through the process and get all our education done. At first the amount of tasks that we needed was rather overwhelming.<br />
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January 7, 2015- Our social worker came over to our house to meet with us and make sure our house was suitable for another baby. It was about an hour long meeting and went really well. <br />
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January 8, 2015- Dereck got his fingerprints done. We also had a phone appt with our adoption consultant about what we're looking for in a baby, as in age, race, sex, etc,
and she also wanted to make sure we got started on our profile.<br />
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January 10, 2015- Finally started our profile book. I never thought I'd get it done because I was so worried about not having the right pictures, wording things wrong, or even how to write the "Dear Birth Mom" letter.<br />
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January 16, 2015- Worked practically nonstop for 5 day's on our book and then had our consultant take a peek to see if we needed to make any changes. She said she loved it, only had us change a few things, and to go ahead and order a bunch of copies for us and a couple for her to have on hand. Dereck and I also had our individual meetings with the social worker. At those meetings we each got asked about finances, our views on raising kids, our families, and our upbringing. I thought these meetings went pretty well, considering in the beginning I was so nervous.<br />
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January 18, 2015- Got all of the education tasks on our checklist from our eadopt account done thus far and waiting until the next set of them are available. Our adoption consultant also gave us a few profiles to look at so we can get used to seeing how they will come from various agencies. Of course, none of these cases we can actually say anything about since our home study isn't completed yet.<br />
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January 24, 2015- Received our first profile book I ordered in the mail. I just love it. It turned out even better than I thought it would. Now we just hope that one of the expecting moms loves it, and us, enough to pick us too. So, now we just have to wait for our home study to get closed out so we can start looking at profiles. I spoke with our social worker the other day and all she needs is the results of our fingerprints back before she can finalize everything. My goal was to have everything done by the end of the January, so we could start seeing profiles by February, but it looks like it'll be the middle of February at this point.<br />
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February 4, 2015- social worker sent me the draft of our home study to review and make any corrections it may need. I also set up an appt with her for the 12th to come by and hopefully the home study will be completed.<br />
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February 9, 2015- Today I got an email from our adoption consultant wondering if our home study is complete. I let her know about the meeting we have with the social worker on Thursday and that it should be ready after that. She informed that their is about 10 other families they are also working with at this time that are female specific like us, and because of this we need to respond to any of the cases that appeal to us after we receive them as soon as possible.<br />
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So that is where we are now. Hopefully soon I can share news of seeing our first cases. And who knows, we could love one of our first cases and even get picked back.<br />
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Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-62370143471079440392015-01-31T13:36:00.003-09:002015-01-31T13:36:46.228-09:00January UpdateThis month and year has been rather busy so far with us trying to get all of our adoption stuff done. I have been working on a post about everything that we have been doing that will be finished soon. It's so exciting! I wish I could've got a post out sooner about it but we have had a horrible string of sickness go through our house on and off for the past 3-4 weeks. <br />
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So, besides being incredibly busy with the adoption stuff, trying to get unsick, and playing with Max of course, I decided to go ahead and get the 2nd blood test on my next period at the beginning of the month. Apparently, I like to kick myself while I'm down, but I just had to know. We also already knew that know matter the results, it wasn't going to change our decision to adopt. After waiting multiple weeks, until a few days ago, I got a letter in the mail from our RE. To sum it up, the letter pretty much said the results were as crappy as they were last month when I got the blood work done, confirming that I really do have diminished ovarian reserve. My RE said that if we decided to move forward we must know that our chances are slim of even getting more than one follicle, but that they'd be more than willing to work with us again, but a donor egg is preferred. I expected that and am surprisingly not as down about it as I feel I normally am about bad results. I think I'll just always be frustrated, especially when I see so many others make it all seem so easy. Also, just looking back at when I first went to my Ob Dr., like 6 years ago now, about how we weren't getting pregnant and she just kept telling me that it was because I was too skinny and I exercise too much. Even though I kept telling her that I eat way more calories in a day than is probably recommended, I don't work out that much, and that I have athlete friends that have gotten pregnant on their first try. I guess it doesn't matter anymore, except now I feel like their was clearly a logical reason all long, but she never bothered to look more into it. <br />
<br />Also, just adding to my minor frustration, is the fact that since I finished breastfeeding I have had a period every month since. That's like 3 horrible crampy ass periods in a row, and without having to take meds to get one. It just really frustrates me since I've barely had a period for the past 12 years of my life, which don't get me wrong, not getting a period is pretty darn awesome, except of course when you're trying to monitor your cycles to track ovulation so you can get pregnant. Then having a period and regular cycles are pretty darn important. So, as you can imagine my body deciding to actually work when I have made the decision to no longer want to get pregnant or need my little to no remaining eggs, it kind of makes me feel like my body is trying to play some kind of a cruel joke on me. Maybe it'll just decided to go away again soon.......<br />
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Another new discussion we have had is on permanent birth control. I actually haven't been on birth control for quite sometime, which might seem silly because their is always the chance it could happen, but it hasn't, and we don't want it to neither. So, Dereck was thinking about getting a vasectomy. it's crazy to think about when our family isn't complete yet, but we know that I'm not going to be carrying a baby again. We also still have sperm cryopreserved if for some reason we do decide to use an egg donor and get another carrier. Just seems crazy that we are at this point already.<br />
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How is tomorrow already February? <br />
<br />Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-44064307624834361502015-01-04T01:35:00.000-09:002015-01-04T01:35:01.560-09:00"Move On"Surprisingly, that was a comment that was left on my last post about Liam and his 4th birthday. Not sure why people feel the need to leave comments like that, and of course they do it anonymously.<br />
Although, sometimes I fear it's family or a friend. The name of my blog says what it's about. If you don't understand or want to understand where I am coming from or are here to remember my children too, then just don't read it, or at least just don't be an ass hole and leave such a shitty remark.<br />
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I hate that I feel I have to even write about this, but I wish people would quit using this stupid phrase. It's about as hurtful as people that try to tell you that I am so strong and they don't think they could've ever have lived through what I have. The thing is that I think I have "moved on" as some want to call it, but maybe just not in the same way as they think I should have. I had an option to make, effing twice at that, to live or die. Now dying wouldn't be moving on, well not in the way I'm talking, nor is just becoming a recluse, or even ending up in the nut house. All options that would have been so much easier. I chose to want to move forward and try to find some joy in life again, and I wanted a family with living children. And I have had to fight damn hard for that. Plus, it's not like the world was going to stop moving forward.<br />
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So, yes, I have moved on and I think I have came a hell of along way from where I was 4 years ago when my world was flipped upside down, but I will never, ever stop loving and missing my son or daughter. I am not just going to push my love for them aside like they didn't matter for anyone's sake. They mattered. And if some think they weren't important, stop reading this blog. And also I feel sorry for you. I hope you never know what's it's like to love someone so much and to lose them. And if you're someone I know, then please step forward and let me know who you are so I can delete you from my life.<br />
Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com20tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-87082707614177802012015-01-03T00:41:00.001-09:002015-01-03T00:48:52.491-09:00The Life Of A 4 Year Old BoyToday 4 years ago is fetal surgery day. More importantly it's Liam's birthday. Four years seems so long ago. So much has happened, seems like a lifetimes worth, not 4 years. So many empty years leaves me with just wondering about the type of boy he'd be today. Having Max now I am getting to see what it's like to watch a child, a son, of mine grow up, but I still wonder how similar or different they'd be from one another. Would he be into cars or superheroes? And school. Would he be in preschool now and by next fall getting ready for kindergarten? Oh and I bet Christmas and birthdays would be just exciting for a 4 year old. Bluhhh......<br />
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Today I was looking at old pictures from my childhood. Pictures of me camping with my family, playing with friends, and pictures of me just being silly with the dogs and my sister at home. The common thing in all these pictures I see is how happy I am and how I miss those days of life being so easy. I've always loved these years, that age range from like 3 through about 8-10. I love their imagination. How I miss my imagination and can't wait to see Max fully use it to be anything and do anything he wants. Max isn't fully their yet but Liam would be, and I can only imagine how awesome it'd be. Gahh, do I ever hate that I will never get to see all my kids play together or get any of those happy, at home or camping, goofy, just being kids photos together, ever.<br />
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Today and always I am missing you little buddy. I miss all that you would be as crazy little 4 year old boy. Love you forever.Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-28830916495316909942014-12-23T14:17:00.004-09:002014-12-23T14:17:49.931-09:00Our Hope For 2015 <span style="line-height: normal;">Surprisingly, after feeling so down, angry, lost, and confused the last couple months, I can say that the last few days I have done an almost complete 180. I still hate my body for completely failing me of course, but whatever, won't get into that today, again. Dereck and I had a good talk a few days ago and we made the decision that we are going to adopt. It is still scary, nerve racking, and far from stress free, but it is still by far the least risky and possibly the least spendy of options. Granted things go smoothly of course. Plus we can choose to only look at profiles for baby girls, which is what I prefer. And I hope beyond hope if we are lucky enough to get picked that the birth mom does not change her mind. </span><br />
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<span style="line-height: normal;">We have already emailed in the paper work and yesterday I paid for the initial up front consulting fees. We have our consultant picked, who I've spoken to a couple times already, is actually the owner of the company, and seems so perfect and sweet. She is going to be getting back to me as soon as she speaks to the person here in Anchorage in charge of handling the home study. Then we can start looking at all the educational materials and start our profile. So much to work on but glad I have something to stay focused on, when Max will allow it of course. My goal is to get these 3 steps done by January so we can start looking at profiles for expectant mom's soon. Eeeeek!</span><br />
<span style="line-height: normal;"><br /></span><span style="line-height: normal;">It is still early on in the process but I am happy I am in a place to say that I feel good and even excited about this decision. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. It is definitely is helping me to be a bit happier for the Christmas and something to look forward to in 2015.</span><br />
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For anyone who wants to keep up to date I'll be starting a tab with all things adoption, including the cost, like I'd did with our gestational carrier journey.<br />
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<span style="line-height: normal;">Merry Christmas everyone.</span><br />
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Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-50327276516329745592014-12-19T11:50:00.002-09:002014-12-19T11:50:59.131-09:00This Is All Too MuchI can hardly think these days. The grief is weighing me down again, along with those thoughts of the "next" baby. Christmas is almost here and I am just wanting it to be over and get to January. Of course, January through April aren't exactly my favorites times of year either. So many friends pregnant and having these perfect babies. So much hate for my body for completely f-ing me over. I hate that my thoughts are so wrapped up in all of this that I can't even bring myself to do much of anything lately. Poor Max. I wish I could find it in me to more excited, but I can't, not this year.<br />
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I met the MFM Dr a few weeks back. It went about how I expected it to go. She wasn't exactly supportive in terms of being like "lets get ya pregnant" and "it'll all work out". I wouldn't have exactly wanted to hear that anyway since no one can guarantee things will work out. She, however, did say that if I chose to get pregnant again that she would be 100% invested in my care. I am glad to hear that but I just wish I would've saw her last time then. Not that things wouldn't have worked out the same, but its hard not to wonder. Also, its not like it was my last MFM Drs fault. She was just listening to the Perinatologist from UCSF. My ob Dr on the other hand, I am still just so angry with. Obviously, she didn't want my uterus to rupture or my daughter to die, but I can't help but still be pissed that she kept blowing off my concerns of a rupture, telling to stop worrying I am stressing my baby out, and that things were going to be fine. It just pisses me off that my daughter might still be alive someone taken this more seriously. But why would they assume I'd rupture, afterall, its so rare. Fuuuuck! Oh and the MFM Dr said that they don't refer anyone to UCSF anymore because for some reason they keep losing all the babies. WTF? seriously?<br />
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Tomorrow I meet with that new Ob Dr to go over the consult I had with the MFM. I expect he still won't be supportive of another pregnancy, but lately I feel like I am just done with all things pregnancy.<br />
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As far as the search for a new carrier, I have spoken to numerous surros through this website called Surro Moms Online. I wanted to find another carrier on our own and be independent again. Granted with Jessica, she found us, and was amazing, I believe there are other wonderful people out there who want to help people like me, without it costing a fortune. I honestly don't know how anyone can afford going through agency, IVF is expensive enough. About a month ago I thought I found the perfect carrier. She had just given birth to a baby for another couple a week prior and wanting to find another couple to help this spring. She seemed perfect and more on our time line. Most surros I was meeting were ready to start the process, like yesterday. She had her first post nantal appt yesterday, but I guess needed to get rechecked in January before the Dr would give her the okay to do this again.<br />
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I spoke with my RE's office a couple months back about wanting to do this process again and they had needed me to do some blood work to test my hormone levels once I was done breastfeeding. I was told I would have the results of my blood work the following Monday, the labs were drawn on Friday. Still no call by Wednesday, so I called them on Thursday and left a message. I should have known that if the nurses weren't calling me back with results right away it couldn't be good. Sure enough, I finally got a call on Friday that I needed to speak with the RE regarding my results. We spoke with him over the phone on Wednesday and I was right. My results are showing that my ovaries are failing fast. He said we were so lucky to even have Max since we only had one embryo. He thinks it'd be a huge waste of our time and money to try and go through ivf and preparing a carrier again to only have no eggs or embryos next time. I started crying and wanted to scream. Why? Why? Why? Hasn't the world screwed me over enough in the having a living baby dept? The RE said we can do another blood test next month and see if anything changes, but he doubts it. Dereck thinks we should get a second opinion, but I don't even know if I can handle anymore of this. Like with getting pregnant again, their are just so many risks, money, and time involved that I don't know if I can mentally go through either of it again.<br />
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I have thought about doing an egg donor more. It sucks to have to use an egg donor and a carrier, but the baby would at least be biologically Derecks. I have also thought of looking into getting a donated embryo. The baby would not be biologically ours at all, but by using a carrier we trusted we could ensure that she would take good care of the baby and of course not be able to take the baby back. That is still a worry with me in adoption, but saying all this, I am kind of to the point of just being ready to adopt. I want more than one living child, and through adoption I will have a better chances of getting a living daughter. I know its a lot of work, stress, and money too, but also so different from the IVF and gestational carrier side of things. I have spoke to one of my blm friends who ended up adopting about her experience and already am looking into the adoption agency they went through. It doesn't hurt to look and too talk to people and know more about all our options, I just hate that they seem to keep getting more and more limited it seems. Because really a baby with spina bifida, fetal surgery, babyloss, a uterine rupture, another babyloss, IVF, and now learning my ovaries just straight up suck isn't enough to completely screw somebody up.<br />
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I also went back to grief group last night. I haven't been there in over a year. I think not since right after Evelynn died. Then I had to stop going because I just couldn't handle, well much of anything. Before the grief group was for anyone who had lost a child of any age, but now a group has been created specifically for people with pregnancy loss or very early infant loss. I think I might try to go again next month. It actually felt good to go and just get everything off my chest to all these women who understood more of what I was going through.<br />
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Well I guess that's all for now. Hopefully I can pull myself together a little more so that I can at least be a bit more cheery for Max this Christmas.<br />
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I saw this on facebook posted by another blm. How true it is.<br />
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<br />Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-47113277517069318842014-11-09T23:13:00.001-09:002014-11-09T23:13:11.190-09:00LatelyI have participated in the Right Where I am Project the last 3 years and had wanted to this year as well but just never seem to sit long enough to write anything up. Time seems to be flying by and I honestly don't know how I am these days. I am grateful for Max and the chance to raise a son, even though I didn't get the chance with Liam, but yet I dream of my little girl on an almost daily basis again. For awhile I had gotten away from being so set on her or even just girl, girl, girl, but lately it has been so hard to not think about everything I am missing. I feel so selfish and like such a bad mom on those days when Max is being crabby. I get caught up in these thoughts about how I bet Evelynn wouldn't be acting like this or even that Liam would know better. It's like I am comparing my children, and I obviously don't know how Liam or Evelynn would be since my chance to parent them got stolen away from me. I may be a little bitter these days. Or maybe the bitterness and all the jealousy I hold in me never went away and is making a gruesome comeback. <br />
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People being pregnant is still rough, especially when its your close friends. I know I've wrote about it already, quite a few months back, but we are finally at that time when my 3 pregnant friends here are finally having their babies, and I am losing my shit. I am trying to keep it together, and for the most part I am. So far there has been a boy, that one was a surprise, and now one of the girls has been born, and next month the 3rd baby, another girl, will be born. I have been cursing the world a lot again at why I got shit on, twice, and everyone else gets perfect pregnancies and deliveries. Not that I want someone's baby to die, but why is it that everyone seems to gets it all?! Seriously, no emergency c-section, no gestational diabetes, no need to see a high risk dr., no bedrest, NOTHING. It. makes. me. crazy! And I'll just stop there with all my negative juju I keep trying to push into the world.<br />
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In other news, talk of the next baby is still going on. A few weeks back I met with a brand new ob dr. Actually, the dr. I met with just so happened to be at the hospital when I had my rupture with Evelynn and helped get me prepared for surgery while the dr. on call from my clinic was on her way. He remembered my case right away he said when he read my records that had got sent to his clinic. He, as with most, strongly suggest getting another carrier since I would be so high risk. Like we didn't see that coming. He did say though that he would consider it, but that he would have to talk to his colleagues since they all share patients at this practice. Honestly I wish my old ob office was like that, then maybe it wouldn't have been such a surprise to the ob dr. on call when she cut me open and realized my baby wasn't in the uterus anymore. He is also referring me to a maternal fetal medicine dr. for a consult as well. I saw this mfm when I was pregnant with Liam. It was her office that told me about the fetal surgery. I went to a different mfm when pregnant with Evelynn, but from talking to other blm friends they all said she is the one I need to see, so that is what I am doing. I am sure she too will say I need to forget about another pregnancy, but I just need to hear what she thinks. That appt is in a week. Then, depending on what she says, I'll go back and see the new ob dr and hear what he has to say about everything. I have my days where I think this is the only way and other days I am scared to death. Not so much scared of losing another baby, I'd hate to, but I've lived through it twice, but I am scared of having the baby end up with severe developmental issue or have cerebral palsy because of my stupidity in getting pregnant. I am also so scared for my own life in that I could end up with major issues if I rupture and don't get to the hospital I time. It's all just stressful.<br />
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Then there is getting another carrier. I have asked multiple people to either carry for us or at least to tell all their family and friends about us in the hopes that maybe someone will want to help us. So far no such luck there. A month ago I did have a family member tell me that they had a coworker who wanted to be a surro and that she would call me to talk about it. She never called and when I texted her I never even received a message back. I wish people would understand how stressful this is and I can't help but get my hopes up, and god does it suck when they get crushed right away. Its really hard to ask people. I know that not everyone loves being pregnant, feel they could handle giving up a baby they carried for 9 months, or even handle all the stuff that goes along with carrying someone else's baby, but sometimes I get so mad when I hear all the no' and the multitude of reasons why. I want to scream back and ask how the hell they would feel if they were in my shoes. I guess I can't say for certain but I think if my situation were different I could've been a carrier for someone. <br />
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I just finished breastfeeding last week, yay I made it a whole year, and need my body and hormones to go back to "normal". Once that happens I'll get some blood work done to see where I stand with doing another round of IVF since we only ended up with one embryo last time. one perfect embryo that is. Hopefully that'll all be done, with good results, by the end of the year. I keep hoping we could have someone lined up by then, so that hopefully by next spring sometime we can start the whole ivf carrier process again. We are still talking about posting something on Facebook, but waiting for those test results first. I have also joined a surro and IP Facebook group to talk with and meet other surros and IPs. That facebook group told me about this website called surromomsonline. It has a classified section for IPs to search for surros or for surros to find some IPs. You can put up your own ad or you can just answer them. So far I have emailed a few of the gestational surrogates. I have emailed one of the ladies multiple times and we even spoke on the phone this weekend. She actually seems pretty perfect. I am going to look into RE's in her area tomorrow to see what those clinics require. It might be easiest for us to go to a new clinic and start fresh and than have her fly to ours. We'll see after I make some phone calls. I'll also be calling a surrogacy lawyer to learn more about the laws in her state. I know its a surro friendly state, but I need to know all the ins and outs before we can go any further. Tomorrow sounds busy. Depending on what comes of these calls, the next big hurdle will need to be how to pay for it all again. No fundraiser this time nor a second income since I am mainly a stay at home mom now. I'd hate to have to wait longer to start a new journey and bring Max a living sibling home, but I guess if the money isn't there, their isn't much we can do.<br />
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Suppose that's all for now. I need to get to bed because that adorable little man of mine will have me up early. Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-45294502902457410772014-10-10T13:00:00.004-08:002014-10-10T13:00:38.259-08:00Uterus Transplant SuccessSo excited to have learned that one of the women that had a uterus transplant over in Sweden delivered a healthy, living baby. Gives hope to so many women either born without a uterus or who have had serious pregnancy/uterine type problems, like me with my rupture.<br />
Here is the <a href="http://m.bbc.com/news/health-29485996">link</a> to the article.Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-40678362347222621532014-10-06T08:41:00.002-08:002014-10-06T10:34:40.147-08:00A First Birthday- September 26, 2014Some days I still can't believe we were lucky enough to enter our lives and help us bring home a healthy, living baby, but how can that little boy already be 1 years old. Where did the time go? It has been a great year. We've had up and we've had downs. Max is so sweet and cuddly and I love that I get to spend my days with him watching him grow. Saying all this though, I am still uber paranoid about something happening to him, like the big D, death that is. He still sleeps with his angelcare or snuza monitor and I get crazy nervous about feeding him certain solids for fear of choking to death. Not sure that worry will ever go away.<br />
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We celebrated his first birthday in MN and ND with family. He's had 4 cakes already and will have another party soon with our Alaskan family. Making it to a first birthday is kind of big deal. We also took some time out to visit some of my old friends as well as a few of our blm friends and their rainbows. We even got to meet up with Jessica and her family. I am glad that we are able to have the relationship we do. Her and her family are as wonderful as the day we first met them. We also visited Liam and Evelynn. I sure wish we could visit them more, but did leave them some birthday party favors.<br />
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Here is the <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xjtBTiFuA3Q">link</a> to his 1 year pics for anyone who wants to see.Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-51936916112870889072014-08-09T12:53:00.001-08:002014-08-09T12:53:26.701-08:00Walk to Remember 2014This morning Max and I did the Walk to Remember. I am so grateful to have Max with me this year walking in memory of Liam and Evelynn. Not grateful for having to be in this boat in the first place.<br />
Love you forever little buddy and baby girl.<br />
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