tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post7908832772749611331..comments2023-05-25T04:27:07.695-08:00Comments on For the Love of baby Liam: Back HomeBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-43258434450204402802012-06-09T18:10:30.909-08:002012-06-09T18:10:30.909-08:00Oh much love to you, dear friend. I wish beyond wo...Oh much love to you, dear friend. I wish beyond words that I could give you a big hug. You are always on my mind. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I wish your sweet Liam and Evelynn were here with you. I am glad Dereck's family has pictures of your babies out. I hope that you can find some hope again. PS. If you are ever back in Minneapolis, let me know. I am only an hour and a half from there. I would find a way that we could meet! Lots of love and many, many hugs.Deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06299163482958386559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-12537464631141648712012-06-06T05:40:58.393-08:002012-06-06T05:40:58.393-08:00I am so glad that your sister in law has pictures ...I am so glad that your sister in law has pictures of your babies out with the rest of the cousins. I wish it were that way in all families as our babies who are no longer with us should be included and will always be a part of our families. <br /><br />I agree with what Emily said about "birth matters...until it doesn't". I hope that you can find peace on your journey to a GC soon. <br /><br />Sending peace and love.Rhiannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11722893069322386523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-40093279158933609272012-06-05T09:24:29.188-08:002012-06-05T09:24:29.188-08:00thank you for this Emily. It's true what you s...thank you for this Emily. It's true what you say about "birth matters...until it doesn't". I need to keep that in mind because having a healthy living take home baby in my arms is the only thing that truly matters in the end.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-31301595647422918082012-06-04T23:26:27.793-08:002012-06-04T23:26:27.793-08:00Praying for you in this sad time. {{Liam}} {{Evely...Praying for you in this sad time. {{Liam}} {{Evelynn}}Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14497636907002853665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-29738357288923072492012-06-04T19:05:52.491-08:002012-06-04T19:05:52.491-08:00I remember reading one time on a babyloss blog thi...I remember reading one time on a babyloss blog this: "birth matters...until it doesn't". Basically the woman was speaking about C-section vs. vaginal delivery and how everyone has their wishes and wants and opinions...until the baby is in trouble and then 'who cares!!?' The fact remains that in the end it will cease to matter how your children enter the world, as long as they enter alive. <br /><br />I remember getting similar advice last fall when Kaia wouldn't breastfeed. As much as I wanted that experience so badly, it's really a drop in the bucket when it comes to the lifetime that is parenting. I still feel a little wistful when I think I might never get the chance to breastfeed ever, but parenting Kaia has become so much more than how she gets her milk, and that's a good thing. <br /><br />Basically what I'm trying to say is, as much as it might be hard to fathom never being pregnant again, I think if you choose to go the GC route, you'll find that as soon as that kicking screaming kid is placed in your arms, it's not going to matter how he or she got there. The parenting journey will begin and the absence of a personal pregnancy journey will probably still sting, but you'll be wrapped up in parenting a live child, rather than mourning where he or she didn't emerge from. At least I hope it's that way for you (and sooner rather than later!!)<br /><br />I feel a little bit the way you do regarding my own ability to have another baby. "What if I don't try again...I'll never know if it could have been wonderful? (because the first two times were shitty in the extreme)" It's a tantalizing thought, but one with so many unknowns. I don't know if I'll ever be ready to take that chance. <br /><br />I hope you can sort all of this out to your own satisfaction. Just know you don't have to have the answers today. They will come in time. <br /><br />Wishing you love and peace from Canada.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17587287197734518952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-86017347524613730032012-06-04T18:07:50.435-08:002012-06-04T18:07:50.435-08:00It must be so hard to be far away from where your ...It must be so hard to be far away from where your precious little ones are buried... and to see them side-by-side. My heart goes out to you always and think of you often xoxoDandelionBreezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988561541523178095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-65012522007630810352012-06-04T12:55:44.074-08:002012-06-04T12:55:44.074-08:00I wish I had a picture of Thea to show everyone an...I wish I had a picture of Thea to show everyone and maybe give to everyone. :(<br /><br />Praying for you.<br /><br />Maria<br />xxxxxMariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13375431824086171027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-82592538529064723222012-06-04T11:32:16.706-08:002012-06-04T11:32:16.706-08:00My husband's family has also been our support ...My husband's family has also been our support system, they have carried us through and keep Jack's pic out everywhere. My mother in law even makes a place for his urn at the table during special occassions. My family well I dont talk to them anymore so I think that says it all ( except my sister who has also been amazing and supportive- even being so far away) I wish you peace and comfort and I wish so much I could take the pain away. Thinking of you xomichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07960223886511130664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-27209051322547386812012-06-04T11:25:29.084-08:002012-06-04T11:25:29.084-08:00I'm glad that Derek's sister had pictures ...I'm glad that Derek's sister had pictures of your sweet babies up with the rest of their cousins, they should be hung with pride, you have two beautiful beautiful children! I so wish they were home with you! <br />Praying you have success soon with a GC, not to replace Liam or Evelynn, but to give you the chance to parent a baby here on earth.... I know you are already an amazing Mother!!<br />Thinking of you alwaysAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-149241853637303212012-06-04T08:20:41.756-08:002012-06-04T08:20:41.756-08:00I'm still just so sorry this is real. It's...I'm still just so sorry this is real. It's like a really, really awful dream. Wishing your beautiful children were with you and you were helping them on their homework in a few years.B. Wilson @ Windy {City} Wilsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17479551028143520755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-3700633193695546822012-06-04T06:13:28.755-08:002012-06-04T06:13:28.755-08:00Sending a huge virtual hug to you Becky. Also wish...Sending a huge virtual hug to you Becky. Also wishing I could just sit with you so you wouldn't have to be alone because being alone was one of the hardest parts of post-baby loss life. <br /><br />It's so nice that your sister-in-law had pictures of Liam and Evelyn up with the other cousins. She sounds like a great person. I'm hoping time flies for you until your GC carrier situation is all settled and she is pregnant and your child is born and gets to come home with his/her mom and dad. I'm praying all that time for you guys. Honestly, I don't often merge my online BLM support life with my day to day life but I stop and think of Evelyn often and still cannot believe how things played out.<br /><br />I cannot imagine the difficulty of making the decision to get pregnant again or not. Even for me, getting a vertical incision makes me nervous about pregnancy again but I know that is nothing compared to actually having a rupture and wondering whether to try again or not. I hope the perfect answer comes to you but in the meantime, I think you are wise to consider using a GC first and then after 5 or so years consider getting pregnant. My OB told me that longer you wait, the better healed your uterus will be, which I know you already know.LookItsJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15098271882501686853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-39637670435036825912012-06-04T05:46:47.832-08:002012-06-04T05:46:47.832-08:00i'm thinking of you guys, and keeping you so c...i'm thinking of you guys, and keeping you so close to my heart. i'm so sorry you guys are doing all of this again for precious Evelynn. loving and mourning your babies with you. ((hugs))Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17906643480459302192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-2657718678889966192012-06-04T04:44:47.368-08:002012-06-04T04:44:47.368-08:00I love that his sister had pictures up of your bab...I love that his sister had pictures up of your babies. They absolutely should be included. I'm so sorry that some close family members are pregnant - it's hard enough with strangers, but tough when it's just all around.<br /><br />I hope you are able to go back and visit your babies again soon, and wishing for continued peace during this unfathomably difficult time.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00101380791416834049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-85954406279471843992012-06-04T03:39:19.478-08:002012-06-04T03:39:19.478-08:00I'm sorry that you guys are so far away from t...I'm sorry that you guys are so far away from their graves. I'm sorry that they're in there more than anything...<br /><br />I think it's great that his sister has Liam and Evelynn's pics out. My family has Lily but my hubby's family wouldn't dream of doing such a thing.<br /><br />I meant to answer on your post in the group but my answer is such a double edge sword. I did carry Cooper but had him very early and had a hysterectomy the same day. I have him though and he's happy and (overall) healthy so I'd do it again...Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02695243793883254621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985288635111425215.post-28330987536804173832012-06-03T21:28:40.117-08:002012-06-03T21:28:40.117-08:00My family doesn't have pictures of Hayes out e...My family doesn't have pictures of Hayes out either, so I feel your pain on that one. Gosh, I can't believe about y'all's sisters being pregnant--so sorry. I know that must be incredibly hard. And two graves--unimaginable pain. My heart goes out to you Becky. Sending love.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09327445812846183545noreply@blogger.com