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Friday, March 4, 2011

Baby Registry

I had started a baby registry rather early in my pregnancy with Liam, I think around 4 months along, even before I knew I was having a boy. I created one early because I had just boughten a plane ticket to go home and spend Christmas with my family and figured while I am home it'd be nice to have a baby shower with everyone. I had hoped to also have one with my Alaskan friends as time drew closer to his birth. I had a wide range of items on my registry, but made sure to tell everyone invited that smaller items are preferred that'll fit in my suitcase since I'd have to haul it all back to Alaska. At the baby shower Liam got tons of clothes, books, and other baby essentials, but many people gave gift cards since those would be easier to pack home. So what do I do now. Very few items were actually purchased on the registry and I loved everything I had picked out for him. I am sure this has happened to others that they had a registry that barely or never got used, but what do you do with it. The reason this came about right now is that I got an email saying that some of the items in my registry are no longer available and then I got a letter in the mail saying that if I would like to buy out the rest of my registry they will take 10% off the entire purchase. I wish I could buy out the registry, I love all of the items I picked out for my little man. I guess what I am wondering about is if I need to call and get the registry cancelled, because I couldn't find a delete registry button on my registry page to do it myself and really I don't want to be the one to delete it, deleting is so final. Will the registry just disappear on its own after a certain amount of time or does it just stay available forever and maybe if I get pregnant again it will still be there waiting to get used. I am just tired of getting coupons and emails for baby stuff since I created a registry don't but don't want to have to call and explain to a worker to delete my registry and stop mailing me things because my baby died.
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6 comments:

  1. DandelionBreezeMarch 4, 2011 at 11:11 AM

    Sounds like a dilemma... I found it very difficult to finalise things like that but would also find it hard to keep getting reminders. Every time I'd have to explain that Gabrielle passed away to a stranger, I'd tear up then cry after hanging up. Not sure what you should do... but your heart will let you know xoxo

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  2. JillMarch 4, 2011 at 1:14 PM

    When I came home from the hospital without my babies there were registry gifts at my house that had arrived. I was heartbroken. I returned the items that were shipped to us and my husband called to cancel our registry. I know what you mean about it being final. The person asked my husband why we were canceling and I just balled my eyes out. It was so hard to do, but it was also hard having their registry online and getting emails and updates. So to answer your question, you usually do have to call and cancel it, but there may be a time frame that it stays up for and then they automatically remove it. xo

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  3. BeckyMarch 4, 2011 at 1:28 PM

    thanks Jill, don't think I'm there yet to be able to call and cancel it. In a strange way I want to know I can just look at it anytime and see all the beautful things I picked out for my Liam

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  4. MaggieMarch 4, 2011 at 2:22 PM

    First, I'm sorry for the loss of your sweet baby, Liam. I think that registries eventually disappear, but I'm not sure how long they stay up. I know you can call and cancel if you need to. After Alexandra, I canceled one online and didn't do anything with the other. It eventually just disappeared. As for mailings, I usually looked the company up online and just unsubscribed to whatever it was (or I wrote angry e-mails). :) It was a great way to get some anger out and it worked for some! If you want to leave it up to look at Liam's things you picked out, that's fine too. (((HUGS)))

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  5. Mama FierceMarch 4, 2011 at 3:41 PM

    I think keeping the registry up for as long as you need to could be a way for you to heal. You could even ask the store for a copy of it so you know you'll have it forever. As far as how to cancel it when you're ready, that's what friends are for.

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  6. rajumadhurMarch 4, 2011 at 10:08 PM

    am sorry for what happened to u.. my mom also gone trough the same things.. but never the less am sure ur Liam will be back to u :)

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