Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Our Carrier is Pregnant- 37 Weeks

We made it to 37 Weeks!!! We have never been this pregnant before! Actually, I have never been this pregnant before, Jessica has, but this is our baby who she is carrying and we have never had a baby live this long! That sounds so bad and good all at once. 

Eeeeek! That's where I were at right now and it's getting real.

Jessica had her 37 week appt yesterday morning. I wasn't able to go with her because I drove back down to MN to see my family for a few days. Well jessica let me know after her appt that she has now dilated to 2cm and is 75% effaced. She said that is what she was at when she went into labor with her second baby. Also, today is 37 weeks and 4 days which is when she went into labor as well. So I am now back up in ND. I drove up last night afraid that Max would be born today. Because you know that if I didn't come back for another few days he would surely be born without me there. 

On Friday the 13th we did the hospital tour. I made it through it fine. I never really did one with Evelynn. I knew I needed a C-section, I knew where triage was, and I figured all that mattered is that she was fine. Well this time around things are a little different since I had no idea how things were going to work once Jessica went into labor and I knew nothing about this hospital. We saw one of the delivery rooms and the little bassinet that Max will get put in before he gets rolled off to our room for us to spend time with. We then saw a room similar to what we would have to be in with Max until he is able to leave. I was also told that after he is born that they want him to go skin to skin right away and since I am breastfeeding as well I should try and wear a lose fitting top so he can get as close to me as possible.

On Sunday the 15th Jessica and I did a mini photo shoot together. I had seen quite a few awesome ideas for pictures from other gestational carrier blogs and pinterest. I never got into doing any pregnancy photos beyond belly pics, but thought that this was something special that Jessica and I could together with Max to remember this time by. It was fun and I'll post pictures when I get them all from Jessica.

I forgot to mention that at Jessica's last appt the Ob Dr. took a look at Max for us and was able to show me that he has a full head of hair. I know out of all the things I should be concerned about having a full head of hair, like his brother and sister had shouldn't be it, but I love knowing that he will share that same trait as Liam and Evelynn when they were born.

I haven't wrote much about the law side of this but I need to vent about how things are going. We are really annoyed, actually quite pissed, at our lawyer. Max could come any day and the prebirth order still isn't finished. I asked my lawyer about getting it done months ago. In the state of ND you can do it as early as you want,  which is what I hoped would happen. I just wanted everything done in advance so I had less to worry about later, but here I am stressing the F out because my lawyer isn't doing his job. Even my ivf clinic called me wondering what is wrong with my lawyer that they are just now getting paperwork to do the affidavit. They asked why we didn't do this right after the transfer. Also, when jessica did the hospital tour by herself before I got there they told her to tell me to have it done before I left the state. I told my lawyer that and also mentioned to him that dereck had to go back to work and it'll be a lot easier for dereck to get his end of the paperwork done if we can do it while he's still in town. Well that was mid august. Nothing is done. From the start all he keeps saying is that we have time. I don't know what his deal is. I am paying him lots of money here, just get it done! It's not hurting anything having it done sooner. He just keeps bringing up the due date. Well I'm sorry buddy but I live in the land where babies can come long before their due date and sometimes they even die. Fuck! Plus, Jessica doesn't want Max put in her name anymore than we do. I can't even imagine the amount of paperwork we'd have to do to get things reserved if its not done by his birth. So stressed right now. This isn't what I needed. Ugh!

Operation Bring Milk Back for Max:

I have now been on the domperidone for 6 full weeks. Started week 7 on Monday. I've been keeping track of what I have pumped this past week and it looks like I am averaging about 8-9 ounces a day. I really wish I would've kept my log book of when I was pumping and donating last spring so I could see how things compared. Also, this is probably too much tmi but waking up to a soaked sports bra a few days ago made my day. Guess it's time to sleep with nursing pads.

I wanted to write about this right away but now will do. Back on September 9th I got to meet up with a few more blm's who live in MN. I got to meet the Julie's. I had not met Julie or Julie until shortly before our meet up. Julie S. had been reading my blog and knew I was coming to MN shortly for Max's birth. She started emailing me and we found a day that could work to meet up. She then contacted the other Julie and invited her to come over as well. The meet up was great. Both of them had their rainbows Bode and Catherine along and we talked about Evelynn and how she should be here too. They asked about Jessica and Max and I learned a little about their stories of becoming a dreaded blm. Overall it made for a good afternoon and I hope to see them again at the next blm get together next spring with my rainbow Max. 


  1. That lawyer is going to have a bunch of pissed off mamas calling him if he doesn't get his act together asap! WTF?!

    SO glad to meet you and I am really looking forward to meeting Max!

    Your dedication to making milk continues to be impressive and inspiring. wow.

  2. 2cm and 75% !! Never been so excited about a stranger's cervix! Ha.

    Yeah I hope your lawyer gets his act together ASAP!

  3. OMG I get so excited when I see your posts!! THANK YOU SO MUCH from the bottom of my heart for keeping us all so well informed and bringing us along on Max's journey. And I'm with Caroline: I'm lovin the effaced cervix of someone I have never met!! Woot woot!!
    I just cannot wait to meet Max!!
    Oh, and I am soooo impressed with your dedication to returning your milk. I could never pump much with my pump, but the babies always had more than enough from breast feeding. You really are an inspiring mom.

    Love to you, Dereck, Liam, Evelynn, and Max!!

  4. I can not wait until you let everyone know that Jessica is in labour. I have also never been so excited to hear the condition of a total stranger's cervix. Good luck to you all.

  5. I can not wait to hear that Jessica is in fact in labour. I have also never been so excited about a total strangers's labour progression. Good luck to you all.

  6. hi Becky, i'm really so happy for you! you don't know me, but i've been praying daily for you and your husband, and for your rainbow Max! i look forward to seeing pictures of you cuddling him on your blog. God bless you and your family!

    p.s. hope your lawyer gets his head out of his ass and does the paperwork before Max arrives!

    -Ruth, Singapore

  7. Dude, I got to tell you, I'm nearly as excited for Max's arrival as I was for my own rainbow! I cannot wait!

    Honestly, I'd be putting my foot up that lawyer's rear end. Just get the sh** done. 3 weeks isn't much time.

    Keep up the great work on the milk!

  8. So glad Max is doing well, and that he'll have the hair to match his siblings! :)

    And yah for a stranger's cervix dilating as it should!! Let's go baby, we're all waiting to meet you!

    I think you're doing amazingly well with the milk production! I bet once he's here the milk will come in even more. Fingers crossed!

    maybe a nursing tank and a button-up shirt or wrap sweater or something for easy access? I could cry just thinking about those moments for you! xox

  9. I just love seeing 37 weeks. I agree with Caroline. Never been so excited about a stranger's cervix. Ha!

    I sure hope that lawyer business is figured out. How emotional that would be if the baby was listed under Jessica's name. Ugh. Wish he would light a fire under his behind. Doesn't he know how long you've waited for bringing a baby home? If HE is the one who prevents that from happening soon/properly, I would be so angry (with you and for you!).

  10. Wow! I am so excited about Max's birth coming anytime now!!! Ha! Never thought I'd be happy to hear that a sports bra was soaked with milk by someone I don't know! Three cheers for you, mama!
    Your lawyer has me VERY upset! What a lazy jerk he is! Just what you don't need! I can't wait for you and your husband to be settled in at your own home with Max! This is going to be a great Christmas at your home!!!

  11. 2cm dilated! Woo hoo! I am so excited/anxious for you. I hope she has a smooth labor/delivery I can't wait to see the pictures of you & Jessica. It's a great way to document this part of your journey.

    As for the lawyer, that is CRAZY. I would be so livid, too. I hope he gets it together ASAP.

    Sending positive thoughts your way and hoping to read the news of the arrival of a healthy Max soon!

  12. yay so close!!!!! i cant wait to see pictures and read all about Max!!! I know he will be everything you dreamed him to be and more!!! Have you come to a conclusion on circumcision? I'm so happy you are breastfeeding! That is a bond like no other!!! :)

    1. We are gonna circumcise. We always plannned to but didn't know when. We are gonna wait until we are back in alaska to do it

  13. I'm so happy to read this. I know your anxiety and hope and excitement must be insane right now. Sending much love. I can't wait to see a picture of you with Max in your arms. My eyes are tearing up just thinking about it!


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