I work in the medical field as a Radiologic Technologist so most of my job involves taking x-rays, which involves radiation, and because of that I have to ask every female patient of childbearing age (more like 10-60) if they are pregnant. Most people respond with a simple "no", which I like. Then there are the others who feel the need to be like "HELL NO" or I hear "oh I'm done with that I already have 3 or 4 or 5". I mean its not like it makes me break down and cry and causes me extreme anquish or anything, but really a simple no would be just fine.
Anybody else work in the medical field and have to ask there patients the "are you pregnant" question or anything along those lines? I get nervous thinking about going to places and having people even ask me if I have kids and here as part of my job I have to ask almost all my female patients if they are pregnant. I wonder if any of them have ever been on my end saying no and crying on the inside knowing that they should still be pregnant and/or grieving over a loss.
Ugh. These questions. I'm sure it's just routine for you, but it definitely irks me how people respond, too.
ReplyDeleteI will never have drawn out responses about how I'm clearly fertile or way done with procreating. My simple answer will always be "no" and that's that. God knows I'd prefer it be YES, but we all know that's not true right now. Sigh.
I think they respond out of sheer ignorance, much like many of us were before we lost our babies. Here's to hoping a few of them stumble upon our blogs and learn sensitivity.
I had to have an x-ray today and I knew that question was coming. It was simple no for me, but wish it could have been a yes.
ReplyDeleteThe people who have been fortunate enough to not have to walk in our shoes just don't think before they speak. To them it's just a question, but to us it's much more.
It must be hard asking that all the time Becky. I really feel for you. I don't think I could handle it.
ReplyDeleteI just read your earlier post from this week. I hope this cycle is successful for you! I've been off the radar of blogging this week. Various reasons and hopefully will get on more next week.
Thinking of you and sending hugs.
That's got to be hard- and people don't think about what they are saying or that it may strike a nerve with someone. I'm sure there are a few ladies that you talk to that are thinking exactly what you are......unfortunately.
ReplyDeleteSending hugs!
xoxo
I live in a constant scare of people asking me whether I have children. Especially those who knew me when I were pregnant but are not aware that my baby died.
ReplyDeleteIt must be hard for you to keep asking this to everyone.
In Dubai they ask, 'are you married? Are you pregnant?'. I answer 'married, but not pregnant'.