Friday, July 1, 2011

Facebook

This not how I wanted to start my 4th of July weekend. I was so happy earlier after getting my IUI today, I even posted about it here.  All that excitement was short, very short, lived. I know a few other blm's have posted about Facebook recently and I have felt I was okay with it, that was up until the last post I read and now I am done. Maybe not done forever, but done for now. In the past I have managed to look at Facebook, even when I saw others who have announced pregnancies or showed their newborns pictures, and get angry, annoyed, and bothered by it but never have I felt the way I feel right now.
So I looked at Facebook, when I should have been working, but thought I'd check it before I left for the day. I end up seeing a post from a guy friend saying he added new pictures to one of his albums. I saw the album name and thought "who is that"? I clicked on the album and saw a whole page of baby pictures and of course I get curious then and want to know whose baby that is thinking maybe just a brother or sisters child and he's a proud uncle. Nope! I decided to click on his page only to read a post saying that "in case you all didn't know I had a baby girl on Valentine's Day".
My heart felt like it was going to pop out of my chest, I felt shaky, I wanted to scream, and tears were instantly forming in my eyes. I couldn't breakdown or scream because I was still at work and had patients to attend to. Why did I look at Facebook and why today is it affecting me so much to see a post about someone I know having a baby. Dereck and I have been friends with this guy for a little over a year and he was really sweet to us after we lost Liam. Right after we got back home from Liam's funeral in January he had dropped off a couple of baskets filled with chocolates, candles, and other goodies at my friends house. We aren't super close to this guy, but we are friends, and how sweet of him I thought to think of us after our loss.
When I was finally able to get out and do more activity after my 6 week healing period from my c-section I hung out with him a few times. This was sometime in March, but not once did he mention he was having a baby, let alone had one on Valentines Day. I'm guessing he probably didn't say anything because he knew it wasn't what I wanted to hear, but now finding out about it 5 months later through facebook feels horrible.
As soon as I hit my car after work the tears just started pouring down my face. I cried almost all the way home. Then when I got home and told Dereck I broke out bawling again. It's not Facebook's fault, its mine for looking at it when I know the consequences of the crap people post. Just mad I guess. I am just so tired of everyone around me having babies this year. I am pretty sure that pregnancy wasn't planned either, which just urks me even more.

8 comments:

  1. I am so sorry :( I had to take a break from FB at one point because it was all too much.

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  2. Facebook is so hard sometimes. It is so superficial and not real. Sometimes I feel like I don't fit in with my facebook friends because my life isn't perfect. I think facebook is one big front, because I know everyone has problems and life tragedies. I'm sorry to hear that it brought your mood down after your IUI. Maybe the nice long weekend will help :)

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  3. I totally agree with what Jessica said above. FB is so superficial. I had about 150 'friends'; most of them post daily crap on FB. I was not a great user but I did comment on others sensible post, congratulate when there was a good news etc. After my baby died, whenever I log in I was so broke looking at all the new baby pix, and the old babies' daily developments.

    I have often wondered how these people will take it if some tragedy like mine happens to them. I don't know if they will give minute-to-minute update about that too.

    I totally understand the shock you must have felt. We have become so vulnerable following our loss :(

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  4. thinking of you, my sweet friend.

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  5. I am with Jessica; I feel like I hardly fit in with any of my "friends" on facebook. It really makes me upset seeing these younger moms on there whining about a crying baby. I just want to yell at them.

    Anyways, I really hope you feel better and can feel more hopeful about your IUI. Thinking about you & praying for you as always!

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  6. ((hugs)) i'm so sorry. i've had to hide so many people's posts on fb b/c of this. most of the time i actually have to go looking to see what's going on in the lives of my friends since i've hidden so many. fb can really be the worst sometimes.

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  7. Lauren - I agree. I blocked many friends updates because of their whining about their pregnancies or children. I would do anything to have my crying baby back in my arms!

    Becky - I'm so sorry that your mood was ruined. I know that sometimes things can just get you crying or totally turn your mood around when you thought things were okay. That happened to me this weekend at a wedding reception. I just ended up bursting into tears after watching a few little kids. I didn't even know it was coming...

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  8. FB is so rough sometimes. I think I have hidden more people that I can actually view on a regular basis on there. It's completely understandable that it would upset you. I hope you are feeling better......

    xoxo

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